Sunday, June 08, 2014


There is a lot of talk on social media at the moment about Fat Shaming and those responsible for it.  Fat shaming occurs when a person is discriminated against because of their weight.  People who experience acts of fat shaming are using social media outlets to let people know about their plights.  I do wonder though, if it's gone too far. If fat activists have been blinded by their desire to be taken as they are.

I'm overweight.  I don't like being overweight and while some of it is my ingrained desire for the ever elusive perfect body, some of it is not.  I don't like sweating profusely when I walk a block, I hate that I get out of breath laying too flat in bed and I hate that I can't wear dresses without a pair of spanx.  Not everyone who wants to lose weight does so because of a societal pressure to fit in, sometimes we are just sick of being so damn uncomfortable.

We are surrounded by healthy eating messages.  It's taught in the schools, in the childcare centres and the advertisements are flooding our social media accounts.  I don't see a problem with this.  Healthy eating isn't about losing weight, it doesn't attack a person based on their size.  I struggle with the need to label talking about healthy eating, fat shaming.  I don't see the connection and I do wonder if this is a grey area that is so easy to be misconstrued.

It is a basic human desire to eat food that we enjoy.  For many years I didn't equate healthy with 'nice'.  In my mind eating healthy meant  living on salad and not much else.  It was a lifestyle of restriction and craving.  The internet has opened my eyes to so much more.  Good food makes me feel great, my body works better and I feel more alert.  Eating good food means that our body can work at the peak performance level.  Not all people who advocate healthy eating are worried about your outward appearance.  Some of them simply want you to feel good, to be able to do the things that you want to do.

Fat activism is a great movement in helping people to feel good about how they look.  It allows people to air their grievances and educate those people who discriminate based on a person's size.  I however worry that it has the potential to go too far, to stifle movements that are just as much about feeling good about our body.  

Where do we draw the line?

Tegan blogs at Musings of the Misguided where she talks about Mental Illness, parenting and everything in between.  When she’s not faffing about on the internet she can be found hanging out with the two men in her life, a lively 4 year old and a partner with the patience of a 1000 saints.  You can also connect with Tegan on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and Instagram.



  1. I think the real blame comes from the advent of both parents working and not teaching their kids about healthier choices. Less home-cooked meals and more eating out is the formula for too many calories (and the wrong calories).

    1. I agree with Scott here. You bring up some valid points about eating out versus eating a home cooked meal. Thank you for sharing that. :-)

  2. Hmm, yes I agree too.
    We cook all our own food and rarely eat takeaways. You know what's in it then!

  3. You are what you eat.....I am too heavy as well but it's my fault and I know if I want to change that,I am the one who has to lose the weight. Good guest blog!


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